Category Archives: Relationships

Forgive and be free

When I was 26, my world fell apart. I had just started graduate school and was travelling back and forth between Richmond, Virginia and Washington, DC because my wife was finishing graduate school in a different city. On one of those trips, I was doing laundry and found a note crumpled in the bottom of the dryer. It was addressed to my wife from one of her classmates: ‘We should leave at separate times. I’ll meet you at my place afterward.’

Although not confirmed until months later, my wife was having an affair. To me, it was a blow of monumental proportions. I felt betrayed, swindled, even mocked. Anger exploded in me and, over days and weeks, that anger settled into a simmering mess of bitterness, confusion and disbelief. We separated with no clear plan going forward.

Although this pain stabbed with an intensity I hadn’t felt before, I was certainly not alone. Many people experience similar hurts, and much worse, in their lives.

Being in relationships often means being offended, hurt or betrayed. As people, we often suffer injustices and relationship difficulties. One of the ways that humans have developed to deal with such pain is through forgiveness. But what is forgiveness and how does it work?

Find Out More (Aeon):

https://aeon-co.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/aeon.co/amp/essays/forgiveness-therapy-can-free-you-from-the-hurts-of-the-past

How to Start a Successful Negotiation in 2 Words | Inc.com

A BrownieBytes secret is out! Getting to know someone by showing genuine empathy is the first step to great communication – especially when interviewing or negotiating. Caring about the other person is key and the best two words to start the conversation are “Tell me…”. Click below to learn more:

In a new book, law school professor Alexandra Carter says great negotiators ask great questions.
— Read on www.inc.com/carmine-gallo/how-to-start-a-successful-negotiation-in-2-words.html

Silicon Valley Bets Big on Microschools and Pods – Bloomberg

With schools in limbo, startups see a big market in helping parents organize learning pods and tutoring groups. Will some kids get left behind?
— Read on www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2020-07-23/silicon-valley-bets-big-on-microschools-and-pods

The ultimate ringer: Former MLB pitcher Jeremy Hellickson helps friends on slow pitch softball team

There was one out in the top of the fourth inning when Jordan Loebig stepped to the plate on Monday night. 

Loebig, a slugger for The Station on Ingersoll’s slow pitch softball team, had already belted two home runs in the first game of that night’s doubleheader. Not wanting to give him a shot at a third, the opposing pitcher opted for an intentional walk, loading the bases for the No. 9 hitter

This wasn’t your typical No. 9 hitter, though. Stepping to the plate was Des Moines, Iowa, native Jeremy Hellickson, who just wrapped up a long career as one of the most successful major league players to come out of Iowa. Hellickson, a right-handed pitcher, won the Rookie of the Year Award, a Gold Glove and is coming off a World Series championship season with the Washington Nationals.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/mlb/2020/07/18/jeremy-hellickson-slow-pitch-softball-team/5460003002/

Eight go mad in Arizona: how a lockdown experiment went horribly wrong | Film | The Guardian

In the 1990s, a troupe of hippies spent two years sealed inside a dome called Biosphere 2. They ended up starving and gasping for breath. As a new documentary Spaceship Earth tells their story, we meet the ‘biospherians’
— Read on www.theguardian.com/film/2020/jul/13/spaceship-earth-arizona-biosphere-2-lockdown

Dog Learns To Communicate By Using Buttons And Tells Her Owner She’s ‘Mad’ – Digg

Stella uses an AAC device to tell her owner what she’s feeling and she talks about as well as you’d think a dog could talk.

— Read on digg.com/video/dog-learns-to-communicate-by-using-buttons-and-tells-her-owner-shes-mad

The Gospel According to Peter Thiel

Michael Gibson still remembers his first day working for Peter Thiel. Like many of Thiel’s hires, he’d met the contrarian investor through several of the PayPal founder’s variously eccentric political ventures. A onetime self-described “unemployed writer in L.A.,” who’d left a doctoral program in philosophy at Oxford, Gibson had met Thiel through his work at the Seasteading Institute, a Thiel-funded attempt to create a libertarian “floating city” in international waters. Then Thiel asked him to help teach a class at Stanford Law School on philosophy, technology, and politics. And then Thiel asked him to work for his hedge fund. Gibson had no intention of working in finance, or any experience in doing so, but he and Thiel had, he felt, “gelled philosophically,”
— Read on www.city-journal.org/peter-thiel

Solving online events — Benedict Evans

Events are a bundle of content, networking and meetings, and aggregate
people in one place at one time. When you try to take this online, half of
it breaks and most of it makes no sense bundled together. We need new tools
and new ways to think about networks, not ‘virtual conferences’.
— Read on www.ben-evans.com/benedictevans/2020/6/4/solving-online-events

Agencies Need to View Working Moms Differently – Adweek

The Pandemic Is Showing Just How Much Working Moms Have to Juggle

The greatest gift this Mother’s Day would be to eliminate the bias against working mothers.
— Read on www-adweek-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.adweek.com/agencies/the-pandemic-is-showing-just-how-much-working-moms-have-to-juggle/amp/

The Man Who Built a 40-Foot Spite Fence Around His Neighbor’s Home

When Nicholas Yung wouldn’t sell his land to railroad baron Charles Crocker, Crocker built a 40-foot fence around his house and blotted out the sun.
— Read on getpocket.com/explore/item/the-man-who-built-a-40-foot-spite-fence-around-his-neighbor-s-home